A Love Letter to PDA'ers

“Here’s to the Untamed. 

May we know them. May we raise them.

May we love them. May we read them.

May we elect them. May we be them.” -Glennon Doyle, “Untamed”

In the 2020 book Untamed, Glennon Doyle talks about our Taming versus our Knowing. The author says we abandon our Knowing due to the emotional oppression inherent in social conditioning. Our Taming takes over - it creates an illusion of safety. 

It’s a cage. 

This is a love letter to PDA’ers, who rage tirelessly against their cages, unless they have given it all they have and feel they can no longer fight. 

I see you. 

I see your capability that others never seem to give you credit for, and how it works well in your life to meet your needs, even when others say you’re wrong. 

I see your innovation and your unorthodox approaches. In many ways, your efficiency of thought. 

I see your deep need for authentic connection, and your refusal to connect in any other way. 

I see the way you’re so offended by hypocrisy. 

I see your body in one stage of development, and your mind being light years ahead of it. 

I see your grievances against injustice and harm - your inability to let them drift away quietly or to accept their inevitability. 

I see your desire to be understood. 

I see your deep, passionate feelings toward so many things, so many people. And how crushing it is to be accused of not caring and not trying. 

I see the way words can fail you. To express your experience, your thoughts, your feelings. How can something so large be translated into something so limited and fixed?

I see your unique humanness, and how much you contribute to this world. 

And I see the heaviness of all these things on you. The toll it takes.